Today I woke up feeling refreshed. I suppose it helps that I slept until ten. I made some coffee and sat on the patio thinking on our current situation. From an outside perspective it sucks. We barely have enough money to pay our bills, much less buy necessities for everyday life. We consider a date night to be $1 dipped cones at McDonald’s. Sometimes we go crazy and get Taco Bell. It seems a little silly getting excited about such things, but the truth is we are blessed. I can say from the bottom of my heart that I don’t regret where we are at financially. We have learned the secret to being content. When finances aren’t an issue we have a tendency to take the small things for granted. In this place I have seen Gods provision. I see now that this was his plan all along. It has built humility in my heart and gratitude. Today I have more joy than I’ve ever had.
So don’t give up. If you are in a situation that finds you feeling stressed our even angry and confused, stop and ask why. I promise the answer will come to you. Maybe not in a way you like or when you’d like it to, but it will come. Maybe, just maybe, it’s as simple as learning to be thankful.
I’ve only been married a short while so as far as experience goes I’m a baby bride. I don’t know about the seven year itch or about severe exhaustion in the first 30 years of motherhood. I’m not qualified to give marital advice what-so-ever. So from the queen of DIY please see this as my experience and not a “how to”.
My parents have the most perfect marriage I know. I’m not bias it’s just a fact. They have a true to the core partnership that has inspired me in my own marriage. I’ve learned a lot from them over the years, but one thing stands out to me the most. My mom told me once that I had to stop holding on so tightly to relationships and let them breathe. I needed to be a place of rest for my husband and not a drag to come home to.
It took years of inner healing to be even remotely secure in my self. This security has given me the freedom to be secure in my marriage. I don’t strangle my husband on a daily basis and I know for a fact he can rest in my presence. Being a place of peace is a daily goal. It takes sometimes putting my own clutter aside to be what he needs. Sometimes I fail but that’s ok. Life is a journey of learning.
A little learned wisdom. Being at peace breaks down walls and creates a willingness to be open. Openness is the key to communication. No man wants to communicate to a nagging woman much less rest with one. Trust me I know. Something to process.
Have a beautiful day 🙂